Bridesmaid Sets Healthy Boundaries and Refuses to Spend $130 on a 'Required' Bouquet, Bridezilla Uninvites Her From the Wedding Entirely

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Oct 14, 2024 10:00 PM EDT

Weddings can make even the most level-headed bride lose their mind. 

Wedding planning–choosing napkins, tasting cake, sourcing a DJ, and designing floral arrangements–sounds like fun and games on paper, but in reality turns people into the worst version of themselves. When chasing the impossibility of a 'perfect wedding', brides will often lose sight of what actually matters at the end of the day: Your friends and family being a part of the day you declare your love for the person you'll spend the rest of your life with. 

This bride turned into a mean bridezilla the moment her bridesmaid refused to follow orders. By setting healthy financial boundaries, this bridesmaid was concerned about the $130 price tag on her disposable flowers and pointed out to the bride that she couldn't afford it. Seeing that her 'perfect day' was already unraveling, this stingy bride flipped out and uninvited her friend entirely, claiming she could just 'meet them at the after party' instead. Read on for all the juicy details of this unfriendly fallout where a woman stood up for herself against a friend gone delulu.

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  • 01
    help her out, later to find out that the bouquets were going to be more expensive than the dress at $130 each!! She chose the most expensive bouquets
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  • 02
    AITA for refusing to spend $130 on a bridesmaid bouquet when I'm the bridesmaid?
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  • 03
    I was a part of one of my close friends bridal parties, she's always struggled financially a little bit and now she's getting married... She asked if us bridesmaids could pay for the dresses, we
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  • 04
    said yes. Then she asked if we could pay for our own bouquets, I said of course to help her out, later to find out that the bouquets were going to be more expensive than the dress at $130 each!! She chose
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  • 05
    the most expensive bouquets and I've offered to even make all of them myself but she's refused because these are the ones she wants. I'm the youngest bridesmaid, only in my early 20s, some of
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  • 06
    the other girls were not too happy about it but I was the only one who said something to the bride, I was polite and just tried to let her know that I have other financial commitments
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  • 07
    and spending $130 on flowers that will be thrown away after the wedding seems a little steep. She's now removed me as a bridesmaid, I'm not sure what to do, AITA?
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    Update: Thanks to everyone for clarifying what I was doubting myself for! And also, for everyone saying to go as a guest, the bride said to me that I could attend the "after party" if I wanted to. I have been uninvited from the whole wedding...
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    Mrs Nobodyspecial67 NTA. If she couldn't afford the flowers how can she expect you too? Just go with the flow, I know she was/is your friend and she will either figure it out or she won't. Brides anymore want more than they can afford and are now expecting bridesmaids to pick up
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  • 10
    the costs of all the incidentals, such as flowers, bachelorette parties, 3 day weekend trips, jewelry.. it gets crazy. If she doesn't ask you back then be thankful you don't have to deal with it, you will probably find the next bridesmaid has a worse time than you have had. If she asks you back your choice but tell her you can't afford the flowers.
    via MrsNobodyspecial67
  • 11
    heyhicherry.pie Fr!! Everytime I've been a bridesmaid i never paid for anything, all these stories make me way less likely to do it again!
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    Witty Requirement3296 This is highly unusual if you are in the U.S. In every wedding I've been in, I've been expected to pay for... the dress, shoes, purse, hair and makeup (often, but not always optional), split the cost of the Bachelorette
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    party (split with other bridesmaids- bride doesn't pay a dime!), bridal shower (split with MOB/MOG and other bridesmaids), wedding gift, hotel before and after wedding (if needed). I have barely ever gotten out of being a bridesmaid for under $2000.
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  • 14
    Apart-Ad-6518 Be glad & relieved you don't have to pay anything now/jeopardize your finances for a selfish entitled A H.
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  • 15
    I've gone real hard on her being ta for expecting others to fund her as opposed being grateful for how kind you all were paying for your dresses but most of all for treating you like sh*t when you offered to make the bouquets.
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    dirtynerdy585 It's normal to pay for a dress if you get to choose the style (if the bride insists on everyone being in the same exact dress I've heard she should foot the bill) It's also normal to pay for hair & makeup if the service is offered (but I've also heard the same where if the bride wants everyone done the same- it's her expense)
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  • 17
    It is NOT normal to expect bridesmaids to pay for their bouquets and if the bride can't afford her vision she either needs to change her vision or consider alternative routes like artificial flowers.
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    NTA and be thankful you're no longer a bridesmaid- I can only imagine how much more outrageous her requests throughout the wedding will become.
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    Scottishlassincanada I think it's only normalized in the USA. I'm Scottish and no one would dream of asking this of their bridesmaids. I had my bridesmaid dresses made, bought their jewelry, shoes, purses, and paid for hair/makeup and
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    bouquets. You're asking them to stand up with you- you should pay. If you can't afford 5 bridesmaids, then downgrade your numbers to what you can afford. So entitled!!! 'Fur coat and nae knickers' as we say in Scotland.
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